Well, we’ve really made the big time now: Oprah! The words “San Jose” actually graced her lips as the best place for a single gal to meet men. Now, before you all rant and rave about how superficial I am or that there must be 1,000 things wrong with me and that is why I am still single, let’s talk about where all the throngs of single men are really hiding—unless they are just hiding from me.
San Jose was ranked number one—I repeat, number one—for women over 35 to find a good man because there are 15,000-plus more single men than single women. If I was a betting man or woman, I would take those odds any day of the week. However, when the article came out in the Mercury News, I received no less than four phone calls from girlfriends all saying the same thing: If there are so many men, where in the hell are they?
Before you go off on your tangents about how I need to go places other than bars to meet men, or that I need to think outside the box or I need to give guys a chance, let’s just say that has all been done. I swear they aren’t out there.
Where is Men’s Health Magazine getting their data from? When I am out and about, do I ever meet any of these so-called active, hot men? No! I either meet men over 35 who are unhappily married or under-25s who don’t quite have a clue about life, let alone women. So that leaves the commitment-phobics, the socially inept, the workaholics and the engineer “types” who can’t carry on a conversation other than on their computers or PDAs. Hey, the truth hurts—and in this case, it’s pretty darn accurate.
OK, perhaps I am being a little hard on the men in “Man Jose.” There are some diamonds in the rough and some exceptions. Maybe many of them put in their long hours and then commute back up to San Francisco or Palo Alto. Regardless, I guess we are all just looking for our own Steadman, just like Oprah, and he’s never easy to find—even if the numbers are on your side.