Through careful research and consideration, I have come to believe that bouncers are now the lowest form of humans to grace our social scene. I have logged hundreds of man-hours in our local establishments to come up with this conclusion that I am sure other people have come to long ago. Doormen and bouncers already operated on power trips and egos. Even so, there is a new increased power given to these men that they do not deserve, and an attitude in our city that they can do or say anything they want to us. I think we all have a growing lack of respect for others in general and the bouncers are leading the way.
Here are just a few examples I have seen lately. I was with some friends at Santana Row’s hotspot, Sino. This is a restaurant that turns into a bar and starts playing loud music. The overall attitude of the bouncers and managers is that unless they feel you are someone, they treat you as if you are no one. I had a manager talk to a friend of mine so disrespectfully that I find it hard to believe he would want someone talking to his wife, sister or mother that way. I am not old fashioned, but gentlemanly manners definitely are not present in a place like Sino.
I have been yelled at, sworn at, pushed and pulled by bouncers or people that work in bars. At Carry Nation’s in Los Gatos, bouncers treat customers like the scum on the bottom of their shoes. I have seen them yell, scream and disrespect people left and right—and they do it only because they can. So why does a doorman or a bouncer hold my fate in his hands? He decides if I get in or not and how to solve conflicts (and I am guessing he is not working with a Ph.D in conflict resolution). He can decide to put his hands on others even though he has no formal training on how to restrain people. Because it is a private bar, it seems all the rules go out the window. Maybe some of our resident lawyers can enlighten me on how bouncers seem to be above the law in some cases. I can’t physically shove someone out of my house, so why can they shove someone out of their bar?
I am a nice, respectful and upstanding citizen, and if they treat me this way, I can’t imagine how they treat others. Maybe there are too many meatheads, drunks and fighters out there that ruin it for the rest of us who are just trying to have a good time. Regardless, the attitude of local bouncers and bar workers is beginning to mirror what I have seen in Los Angeles and New York. Are we really there yet? If this is the direction that our city is going in then maybe I need to become a hermit.